Saturday, February 14, 2009

20/20 Special

Most of you know I'm a big fan of The View. They had Diane Sawyer on this week talking about her special that aired last night on 20/20. This special completely broke my heart. Her special was about people living here in America, in the Appalachian mountains, who are so poor they sell drugs for money or risk their lives in the mines. I encourage all of you to go to abcnews.com and watch the special. It's an hour long, so make time for it.  It follows kids and their struggles they have. In these times where Deric and I are being creative so we can pay our bills, it really makes me take a step back and think how truly, truly blessed we are. Make sure you bring tissues along. 

Here's a transcript (page 1) briefly talking about the families. You can read the whole thing online:


The oldest mountains in America are rich in natural beauty with their raging creeks, steep hollows and old pines. They are also one of the poorest, most disadvantaged regions in America.

Photos: Children in Central Appalachia.
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Central Appalachia has up to three times the national poverty rate, an epidemic of prescription drug abuse, the shortest life span in the nation, toothlessness, cancer and chronic depression. But everywhere in these hills, there are also young fighters filled with courage and hope.

Settled by tough pioneers who clawed their way over the Appalachian Mountains to expand America's borders, the region has produced some of the fiercest military fighters the country has seen. Like their ancestors before them, the children of the mountains are born fighters, and for two years, ABC News has documented the unique challenges some of these rural children face as they chase after their dreams.


Courtney, 12, hopes for a home for her and her family.

"We're not like other people, we can't afford food after food after food," she said.

Shawn Grim, 18, tries to fight his way out of his dysfunctional family in the mountains by becoming the high school football star of Appalachia, while sleeping in a truck.

Jeremy, 18, makes a decision to accept a life down inside the mines, and Erica, 11, is forced to grow up too quickly, trying over and over again to save her mother's life.

'Mountains Are Like Your Mother's Arms'

For generations, poets and musicians like Patsy Cline, Loretta Lynn and Dwight Yoakum have been inspired by the majestic beauty of the land that spreads across 13 states and has towns named "Lovely," "Beauty" and "Kingdom Come."

"I think the mountains are like your mother's arms around you. They're holding you in one place," said Whitesburg, Ky., resident Nell Fields.

Forty-one years ago, Robert F. Kennedy traveled to eastern Kentucky to bring attention to a part of the country that desperately needed help.

At that time, almost 60 percent of families in Appalachian Kentucky fell below the poverty level. The average per capita income for the region was only $841, more than a third lower than the national average.

Today, there have been improvements in the region and many communities are flourishing. Highways now link the mountain towns to cities in the valley, and reduce what used to be day-long trips to a matter of hours. One-room schoolhouses have been replaced by fully-equipped buildings, all of which has helped pull up national achievment rankings. But roughly 40 percent of Appalachia's population in the hills and hollows remains stuck in poverty, still searching for the road to success.

Thursday, February 12, 2009

It Won't be Like This for Long

I haven't listened to country music in months! I do really enjoy it, so since my normal station was way too boring I turned it to the country station. This song played on the radio and I had to fight the tears. 


He didn't have to wake up
He'd been up all night
Lying there in bed and listening
To his newborn baby cry
He makes a pot of coffee
He splashes water on his face
His wife gives him a kiss and says, 
"It's gonna be okay"

"It won't be like this for long
One day we'll look back laughing
At the week we brought her home
This phase is gonna fly by
So baby, just hold on
It won't be like this for long"

Four years later, 'bout 4:30
She's crawling in their bed
And when he drops her off at pre-school
She's clinging to his leg
The teacher peels her off of him
He says, "What can I do?"
She says, "Now, don't you worry
This'll only last a week or two"

"It won't be like this for long
One day soon you'll drop her off
And she won't even know you're gone
This phase is gonna fly by
If you can just hold on
It won't be like this for long"

Someday soon she'll be a teenager
And at times, he'll think she hates him
And he'll walk her down the aisle
And raise her veil, 
But right now she's up and cryin'
And the truth is that he don't mind
As he kisses her goodnight
And she says her prayers

He lays down there beside her
Till her eyes are finally closed
And just watching her it breaks his heart
'Cause he already knows

It won't be like this for long
One day soon that little girl is gonna be
All grown up and gone
And this phase is gonna fly by
So he's trying to hold on
It won't be like this for long
It won't be like this for long


In a few short weeks Deric and I will have those "no sleep" nights. This song was a good reminder of things to come and times to cherish now. :) 

Monday, February 9, 2009

Sophi Update

I can't believe it, this Thursday marks 4 weeks until Sophi's due date! Seriously, how quickly does time go??? 
We had an ultra sound on Thursday to check her position. She is head down and still 100% girl. Here are my thoughts on those 2 things:
1. I was secretly hoping she was breached. I have this low tolerence for pain thing, but I know God will give me the strength and I don't need to fear pushing her out! I just keep reciting this verse from Psalms, "When I am afraid, I will trust in You." I'll probably end up singing it during labor. :)
2. I also had the secret paranoia that the dr. was going to tell us Sophi wasn't a girl. I kept replaying the stress that would overtake me to hear those words. Can you imagine us having to repaint a room, return everything unopened, and store everything I already opened?? All in 4 weeks?? I'm SO GLAD we don't have to do that. 

Everyone keeps asking me if we are ready. All I can say is, "NO WAY!" Granted I am totally ready for her to come out, mostly because I'm tired of being uncomfortable, oh and that we want to meet her :). But we still have so much to finish. Her room is not close to being done. We have pretty much everything we need except for her furniture. I just lay in bed thinking of her room and all the things that need to be done.  Deric and I just pray she doesn't come early! My bag for the hospital is not even packed yet!! We both know everything will come together, it's just hard to do it by yourself. I really want Deric here!! But he has to bring home the bacon, so I have to compromise somewhere. 

Here are some picks from one of two of my showers. This shower my friends from college, Cassy, Noelle, and Christine threw. It was so lovely. Plus, they had my favorite cake--white Costco cake w/ strawberry filling and real frosting!! 
Left to right: Katie, Cassy, Me, Christine, and Noelle

My mom and I
Some gifts from the girls. Cassy made the diaper cake!! 

Monday, January 26, 2009

Childbirth classes

Deric and I have 1 childbirth class left. I must say, I'm glad. Yes, I did learn some things:

1. The placenta is HUGE!!!
2. You can't have a plan for your labor. You never know what will happen, what you'll decide you want, and what you'll need. It's good to know what the different options are (you need to be informed), but that doesn't mean you have to have a strict plan in mind. It will never go as you planned. 
3. A baby's head has soft spots for good reasons.. to make it through your pelvis. 
4. Don't be dehydrated during labor. Keep drinking water/juice or eating ice chips.  
5. Get as much protein and calcium as you can before labor. The uterus is the most important muscle that needs to be the strongest during labor. 

So as you can read, there were some things I got out of the classes.
Here are the things I did not like:
1. The videos. Why must they show a first-time mom videos of women giving birth?? Why is it they only choose to show moms who don't get any drugs? Why is natural the only way to go? Each video gave a detailed description and visual of your body stretching. They can show us 5 min. but seriously, 45 min!! Who needs to see that?? 
2. Breathing/relaxation techniques. Like I said, it's good to be informed. So I totally appreciate being informed on all the different techniques you can use to make through each contraction. I will not slow dance in the hall during labor, but I will use some of those breathing things and probably take a bath/shower. (Granted saying I will not slow dance contradicts me saying don't plan, but there are some things that are just plain silly!) Again, I don't need a 50 min video on how to do these things. Just show me and have me practice. 
3. I was like the only person in class who probably have asked their doctors questions. People were having trouble w/ leg cramps, braxton-hicks, etc. The instructor asked us if we had questions. I felt silly being the only person not having any, but my doctor already answered those for me. 

I don't want to seem like I know it all, which I don't. I still have the "fear of the unknown", but I've been doing my best to ask questions and read up on all the things I am/will going through. Our classes did have some good info. I'm glad we did take them. One can only really use all the things they are talking about until you go through labor. We can watch video after video and read and read, but God is ultimately in control what will happen. His timing is perfect. Sophi will come the way God planned it to be. It doesn't matter if I sit on a birthing ball, take a bath, or have an epidural.. all that matters is that Sophi comes safely. It will be painful, confusing, and unplanned; but in the end, we will have our little Sophi. :) 

Thursday, January 22, 2009

Reflection

So this week I got this nanny job for a family of three back in December. Their kids: Taylor-4, Sophia-2 (it's so weird using her name!), and their foster baby born on Christmas Day. At the time I took the job, I thought, "NO PROBLEM! I can watch 2 kids, a newborn, and be 8 months pregnant!" I was very confident... too confident. 

Anyways, after the first day 8:30-2:30 (only because I had a dr. apt), I thought again.. "NO PROBLEM!" After yesterday working 8:30-4:30, I thought I was going to die!! Luckally I had no contractions, but was SOO sore! My back, feet, and legs hurt. My hands are so swollen that I can't even wear my wedding ring. I was dreading working again today. But I knew I had to since I stopped working altogether, we really needed the money.
I was standing in the mirror this morning really thanking God for having me be able to stay-at-home during this time and after Sophi is born. (Even though we are unsure about our bills) There are women I know that worked full-time until they had their babies. I don't know how they did it!! Furthermore, one lady I worked with, even had 2 other kids at home! 
I have more compassion for these working moms than ever. SHOUT OUT to all the working prego moms!!! :)

Wednesday, January 14, 2009

The Bachelor

I'm sure I'm like several girls out there who are watching The Bachelor. Most of the girls are super annoying, but I keep watching it. I just can't stand the fact that Jason kisses all of them!! It must be written in the contract that he MUST kiss starting on the 2nd episode and he MUST kiss whoever he can. Granted, some of the girls asked to be kissed (WHO DOES THAT?), I would have thought Jason would have been different. I just fast-forward through all the kissing. Seriously, get to the good stuff!! 

Secondly, how is it that ABC only finds girls who are super skinny and totally hot? I knew he was going to send home the girl from NY. She didn't wear nearly enough make-up compared to the other gals. It just makes me sad that they never put real American girls on this show. Or maybe, just maybe, all the classic girls are taken or wouldn't dare to come on this show?? I know I would never, especially with him kissing every girl! 
Yet with all my problems with this show, I still watch. I will keep watching until he finds his "true love." 

Thursday, January 8, 2009

Contraction joys

The past week I've been getting those fun Braxton-Hicks contractions. For the most part they come for a bit when I do too much. Well this week, they decided to make an appearance everyday being even more painful and frequent. 

In the midst of having these contractions, my insurance company called me asking about a current diagnosis listed on my chart. They told me I had "malformation of my uterus." Obviously I had no idea what they were talking about. I've been seeing the Dr. regularly since July, you'd think they would tell me if something was not right. The insurance company told me they would remove it from their records and I went on with the rest of my day. After the Middle School left our house at 8:30 I checked my voicemail. It was from my Dr. saying I needed to call them in regards to the information on my chart. So now I am worried!!!

THEN... I started having contractions that were very painful and I started counting them just like the nurse told me to do. I had 4 in an hour and was worried. Sophi was moving fine, but I know I was double worried because I had this "malformation" thing on my chart. Even though the nurse said if I had 6 or more contractions, I needed to come in, I just wasn't at peace especially. I wanted to be safe, not sorry. 

To ease Deric and my mind, we decided just to go to OB Triage and make sure everything was fine. The nurses there were so nice! They gave me a ton of information and were patient with me. The moment they plugged Sophi in to hear her heartbeat, I felt at peace. Her heartrate was normal for 45 mind and my contractions had stopped. (Of course, when I get to the hospital). They didn't check to see if I was dilated, b/c they didn't want to start anything.  The best words the nurse gave us was, "Your baby's heart beat is beautiful! She is very healthy! We have no concerns!" 

Luckally I go to the Dr. today. I have a list of 8 questions I will be asking. I'm glad to know Sophi is okay. I'm thankful the hospital was kind and understood I wanted to be safe, than sorry.
Oh, and for my "malformation"... I talked to the nurse today and she told me they have no idea how my insurance company got that information. (Typical for insurance companies) 
I don't have a malformation, I'm perfectly fine. :) 

I guess this is only the beginning of contraction joys. They will come and go, when it gets closer, then Sophi will show!!!